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Supporting Your Team – In Times of Change

5 Key ways to support your people

As an experienced manager or even if you are new to management, interpersonal skills are the intricate subtleties that influence and impact relationships. Here we look at how you can maintain efficient and productive relationships where your team can enjoy achievement and recognition.

Relational skills are at the heart of effective communication and a core strength in team unification for any team member, manager or leader. Yet how much time do we spend to consider, how our decisions and actions can better engage with others? When we get it right it is a natural state where people excel; they are engaged and motivated.

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influencing change

To understand how you can better manage through change your team there are five skills:

  1. Managing change – the key to influencing others is to anticipate when, and to who, the correct information is passed. Change management is about knowing that new directions, goals and policies can be for a lot of people, intimidating. Typically, we are victims of comfort, we don’t like change. Maximising performance through proper delivery of information, setting objectives and allowing individuals to participate in change is crucial.
  2. Body language – it is the tell-tale sign. Know what to look for and how to translate the subtle messages that are being sent. The rule of thumb is whatever is on your mind must come out through your body language.
  3. Building rapport – establishing trust is paramount for being able to effectively influence key decision makers and team members. Develop conversation to balance personal and professional needs and allow others to share their vision and values.
  4. Assertiveness – to lead by example and display an enthusiasm to resolve issues with a win/win attitude. It changes your presence when others see you as a champion of the team. This characteristic is one of the strongest skills to develop and earns the greatest respect.
  5. Emotional intelligence – the scope of translating how you feel and the capacity to regulate your emotions. It is how we respond appropriately and how we respond to other’s reactions that are essential for being an effective influencer.
With one powerful word

With these five key ingredients considered the effect can be truly stunning. The benefits rewarding and surprising. These are the skills of the great leaders, people who you want to work with and support. They give purpose to your efforts and make a direction clear, visible and achievable. They ensure communication is open and that other’s points of view are considered and more importantly encouraged.

The word is ‘because’. How many times have others felt left out or confused by a decision simply because – the choice had no explanation. It has been shown that more people comply with a request purely because is led to justify a reason.

Why communication goes wrong

Often there will be problems where understanding a colleague’s point of view. Those tangents that can erupt out of nowhere often catalysed by stress. The first port of call is to build from effective communication, the ability to be honest and express appropriately, your feelings. To say ‘I feel under pressure today’ in a calm voice builds trust with others and shows a willingness to share something personal. This is far better than saying nothing until the complication occurs and causes an over-reaction no-one was expecting.

The point here is that the key to influencing relationships is that often vulnerability, can be a strength. Are you really giving your team your very best or are you just assuming it?

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How to build spectacular relationships

When a Director once gave a talk on the importance of developing relationships, I was left thinking I had to buy someone a gift. Maybe it isn’t too far from the truth. When developing skills that can influence a relationship, having a giving attitude is what can help make them spectacular. Find out here how to build spectacular relationships.

Recognition

The most powerful initiator in building a great relationship is recognition. I am not talking about a front-page editorial in the weekly rag. This is all about being present for the other person at every interaction. Listen thoughtfully, reflect ideas and interests that are important to them.

Be sincere and serious about the issues that affect them. Offer support without the need for solutions. After all, isn’t this the very technique you use when you want to impress someone?

How often I hear others say that the first time they met a life-long partner – there was a connection. He/she just seemed to understand me.

Giving others sincere recognition is the first stage in healing, just ask a psychologist.

 

I am amazed at how many professionals fail  to see the effect they can have on others. The joy of a young child playing with a parent. The impact a senior director can have just spending a few minutes with a junior executive. How a famous actor can visit a children’s hospital ward and replace pain with joy. You have the choice to either light someone up or crush them.

The Critic

The third rail – touch it and fry. While giving others recognition is the gift to building a strong relationship, negative criticism is by far and away the slow toxic death. As a professional I grant you that critical analysis is an important component to business. Personal criticism, however, simply has no place, anywhere.

Yet in the modern world it seems that our natural, default position is to criticise. And wow, aren’t we just great at doing this? I can guarantee that if you put an idea forward, there will be at least 8 out of 10 people who will tell you why it can’t work.

So why do people fall into this trap? It’s all about power. I criticise you because it makes me feel powerful!
The last word

The extent to which we inspire one another, though we may be oblivious to it, is incredible. We listen and take a genuine interest. We practise understanding. Why? Because others excel with it, they want to work harder, be more productive, be as great as they can. This world continually proves that to claim power over another does not work. It is the wrong path, a dead-end, and has nowhere to go.

Remember, every time you criticise you leave a ‘bruise’. How long will that bruise take to reveal itself? It can leap out at you from hiding, when you least expect it. Deny people recognition, ignore them, substitute tolerance with dominance and watch the damage happen.

The gift is not buried in clever conversation and it is not how much you are willing to spend. It is free, it is generous, and most importantly, it is all about them. I hear so many people say they wish things were different. Be the change you want to see in the world. Start with yourself today.